”Often, that’s a key element of their ability to abuse – their supposed charm. When they are ‘lovely’ to everyone who knows them, it’s even harder for a victim to come forward.”
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Category Archives: Abuse
Where did the Voice Go
2One morning I realized while sitting drinking my morning coffee, that if my daughter or son, would be harmed in any possible way, I would fight for them.
I would be laud and direct, fighting for them to be heard and believed. — as I already have done in some ways— I would fight for their voice to be heard and justice to be made. Write about it. A matter of course!
But why in the name of …..did I not make myself heard? Or even fight for myself, in a more determined way?
I was shocked when I realized that I was quiet, hiding scared in a dark hole. Refusing to come up and fight, to be laud, set boundaries and say, “Enough is Enough!”
For two decades now had I fought for the Animal Rights. I was well known for rescuing many animals. And maybe also for my three published books. I could get the cruelest person to hand over their abused animal to me. In that case was I strong, and determined.
But how come I didn’t stand up for the person that needed the help most? I asked myself again!
Maybe it’s Because there are groups of different kind of help. You can be “lucky” to come to the right person right away, or, your road starts taking a scary turn, with the wrong people behind their desks.
We trust them. Listens to their promises. We trust their occupation, of course they must know what they are talking about. Right!
There are good people helping, but they are overloaded with work.
It doesn’t get easier because you finally dare to leave. Then the revenge starts.
Silence can make the wrong people continuing with their harmfulness. I started writing about this theme 1996, still not bigger of a change. More Women Shelter are being built. Good and sad.
It’s time to stand up, reunite with the past, starting today.
That’s Amore!
Babies and Animals are Born Pure
0With big certainty will you become narcissistic, inherit the narcissistic personality while growing up. If you don’t have anyone in your environment who can raise, and support you in a healthy way.
Babies and young children have an innate sense of justice and empathy. In fact, even animals has, research shows. ( of course that was no surprise for me)
That’s Amore!
Empower yourself with Strong Survivors
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One thing I learned through the long journey as a victim, was to find strong survivors for support and advice.
These incredible women (and one man ) understands first and foremost, all the different emotions which (many times ) are making it difficult for the mind to move forward.
They are also helping with my recovery and growth, to become whole again. They understand the time it takes. Small steps and big cheers!
What I love with these strong women I am surrounded by, there are never any talk about revenge. Only to get knowledge and love (support) and possibilities for myself. And of course laughters, between the tears.
Now …….
That’s Amore!
No to Silence
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Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target
of the abuse.
Emotional and financial harm are the common ways to destroy the target.
Every week I hear the same kind of stories from different women. My Mother, one Doctor, Psychologists, Stay Home Moms, one Army Captain, Nurse…. I can go on and on. One thing these women have in common:
They are beautiful smart women, but became targets by harmful men. Not, of course, in the beginning, that would have been to easy.
Groomers, with love bombing and learning how to mimic the women’s dreams. Playfully, like a cat is playing with the mouse. It’s a game.
“Because it’s fun” one man told me. Another man shrugged his shoulders, he just did it! Why? He couldn’t answer.
The silence will keep more and more women in the shame trap, if we don’t speak louder about it, openly.
Your voice is tremendous important!
That’s Amore!
Your Pain got a Story to Share
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Every week I meet people that truly want to express their pain, but don’t know where to begin. Pain can be overwhelming.
Many, and especially women also feel ashamed that they got fooled in a relationship. That they stayed to long in a toxic relationship. They trusted their partner, later being left with ignorance, hurt, economically broke and left with debts. They try to fight, but when the system also lets them down, the pain inside grows.
Not being seen!
When friends stops to talk to you, or helping. Maybe they say they feel guilty. Or nothing at all.
Your pain grows like a tumor and you lose hope.
Every week I meet a woman that has the same story as the woman before her, and before….
Few men, but there are men suffering with pain. Many time they don’t want to talk. It’s ok! The heart doesn’t have any knowledge about time, since time is an illusion.
Same goes for animals. No time.
When adults come to meet our therapy horse, Julia. I leave them alone together. I keep of course, a “mom” eye, and especially on Julia How she reacts in the moment, together with the person.
A horse never lies, and has never been wrong about a human.
Please try not to see your pain as something shameful. Grow in it, earn it, and talk. If it’s to a horse, psychologists or……someone you can trust.
That’s Amore!
Your pain gives you a unique insight into the minds of people who have experienced trauma and heartache.
I will Never be Quiet
0Maybe a pause here and there, to regain my strength again.
It’s not easy fighting the dark side, and sometimes I get hurt. But I get up, and start over again. And again!
I know how it is to be left alone without a voice protecting me. Instead of being bitter, I become the voice I wanted someone else to be.
That’s Amore!
