Mia Mattsson Mercer

Children and Animal Warrior

I Lead my Heart with Courage

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When there is sun and blue sky, life feels lighter

When you are with a friend, life feels good.

When someone asks, how are your, not only with their words, but also with their eyes.

Feels amazing.

They stop their own life for a minute, and connects with you.

I see when you hurry up to avoid me, but I smile towards you. I know you feel guilty, and I don’t want you to have that burden, because of me.

I continue pretending everything is fine.

I am thankful, you know, that I finally can see clearly with my own eyes, even if it hurts.

But only in that moment, I let it hurt.

I don’t judge you. You see, I am learning not to judge myself. So I turn around, and walks towards the horses. We are one.

I feel accepted without any words.

That’s Amore!

It is Your Fault

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Right now, am I studying about High Conflict People. Persons which can make your life stressful, frustrating, and even extremely challenging. They bully, or belittle you, now matter age. Placing blames, or threatening, acting aggressive in appropriate ways. Spreading rumours, and love to sabotage. (I can go on)

As a child, you do not understand this kind of behaviour — and while growing up, you continue believing that this is a ‘normal’. Since your internal voice continues telling you so over and over again. “It’s your fault!’ “You made me do this to you!”

As time goes, one day you fall in love, being charmed, and it feels great.

You feel loved. You feel seen. You are madly in love. You talk about your future together.

Grooming has started, without your understanding, right that moment. But, it feels good!

Children that grew up with being belittled, bullied or abuse in any way, are easy targets for High Conflict Persons. Grooming with love and promises, sweet dreams.

After I while, the isolation starts. Slowly! It’s not noticeable, just like gas, creeping slowly invisible up on you.

Suddenly, the blames starts to come like hail storms. Sometimes with small glimpses of sunshine– to keep you confused. Maybe you only over react?

Yes, during my childhood, growing up, ‘they’ said it was my fault, ‘I was useless, I couldn’t do anything right. Of course, ‘It’s all your fault!”

It’s brainwashing.

It’s not about YOU! It’s all about them.

Start by writing a journal, date, underline, feel and write. Because at first we deny, we don’t want to believe what is happening. While writing, the truth will appear on the paper.

Is it your fault?

Try relaxing your thoughts. Try meditation, in different ways to find the one that suits you at the moment. Just try out.

Light a candle, breath. Tell your brain, over and over again, ‘you can do this!’

You are not alone!

That’s Amore!

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Lazy Sunday

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Don’t eat it all, please!!!

Weekend Treats

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I wasn’t sure I would like the book which was recommended by the book club I just joined.

But I absolutely loved it. Beautiful written!

And finally, the movie I wanted to see for a long time. I loved it. I noticed several times smiling through the movie. Absolutely fantastic actors.

Cold outside, warm fireplace and fury friends next to you on the couch.

That’s Amore!

The Weight on a Child’s Shoulder

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A child’s shoulder were not built to bear the weight of their parents choices.

You cannot change what you don’t know, however, when you do know, you have a choice. It’s painful, maybe shameful, frightening, feeling alone and scared.

But you can do it! Get professional help, and do not be afraid of trying different ways. As long as your intuition, and feeling empowered grows, you will grow towards healing.

It will take time.

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” — John C. Maxwell–

That’s Amore!

Empower Celebrations

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💚 Marriage, engagement, pregnancy, a new child, are all amazing things to celebrate, but they are not the only things. Don’t forget to celebrate your friend who ran a marathon, who left a toxic relationship, who went back to school, rescued/adopted animal(s), who is taking steps to heal from trauma (I can go on and on 😅)

That’s Amore!

Celebrate and empower each other!

@souls-connecting borrowed most of the text

Learn from Children’s Honesty

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Children are amazing, by telling their truth right away. It’s simple.

Short and upfront!

How much more easy wouldn’t life be, if we could see with their eyes, and speak like their hearts.

Pure and simple!

Never belittle anyone, and especially not children.

Uplift them.

That’s Amore!