Mia Mattsson Mercer

Children and Animal Warrior

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My Body Belongs to Me

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The little girl with her thin blond hair sat on the cold wooden floor, protected by the darkness. The demon’s back glowed by the light from the moon, shiny and white, apart from some big moles that looked as if brown mud had been thrown at him.

The demon didn’t know that it was only her shell that he ravaged. He stroked her soft skin with his rough working hands. It felt like sandpaper to her sensitive skin. To survive, she had to leave her body. Leave her body from the pain and degradation, but the memories would always find their way into her subconscious.

The demon was not a fantasy. He was real! He was alive. He breathed, talked, and pledged his love. But the most important thing that he told her; it was their secret.

He was someone she knew. She had been taught to never follow strangers, only to trust them she knew.  And so she did.

Always talk to young children and teach them the differences between, “good touching, bad touching and secret touching.” But also for them to say “Stop! Its my body!” from relatives, to friends, to strangers……..no one.

That’s Amore!

In Difficult Times

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The price for a woman’s freedom are very high.

When you feel like the whole world doesn’t see you, or even cares about your story.

Except for the street dog which sees you as the pure living spirit you are. No judgement. Not even looks away because it can feel uncomfortable.

Every day when She came to her spot, he showed up. The rough Street dog knew she that She always had a small plastic bag of dog treats in her fake Gucci handbag.

When a customer acted in a threatening way towards her, the stray chased the threat away.

When She jumped into a customers car, waited the Stray until She returned.

She wants a “normal “ life , however, as long as we doesn’t see her as someone’s daughter. She will never really be free.

Hope please come back to me!

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Grieving in Different Kind of Shapes

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Grieving in different kind of shapes. (part 1)

Many of us carry around some kind of grief from different experiences in life. Maybe from childhood, loosing a friend, family-member, or a pet. Grieving can also give us a feeling of not being seen or heard, a deep inner sadness. At school or working-places being bullied, verbally or physically. But it can also be in a sport-club were you are supposed to be included as a team-player but are not being accepten.

Grieving can damage our confidence.

Grieving is ‘normal’ and it’s good to feel the emotion, however, it is important to recognise it, identify and slowly work it through. The importance is to find your inner sparkle again. Maybe your lost motivation.

Working with Animals for the last 25 years has shown me an amazing results of helping humans out of their sadness. Dogs and Cats have during a long time been fantastic companions–many of us knows that. We talk to them, they make us go out (also up from bed) and when we hug and pet them, our body reacts with love.

Horses has been an amazing journey to work together with. They do not judge us, or say things that can make us feel worse. (no eye-rolling there!)

Julia is one of our rescue horses. She can be extremely calm, and got a great amount of patience (if food is not near by) She herself recovered from a depression two years ago.

A ‘Mother’ was going through a bitter divorce, not only with emotionally battles, but also with financially difficulties. The only thing ‘Mother’ wanted to do after a long time of abuse was to have a quiet ‘normal’ life. But she was surprise to find out she was carrying around with a lot of grief, under all the layers of other emotions. Grief was one of the emotions she never thought she would feel–in her mind she should feel happy to be “free” not sad. When we looked a little closer inside of her mind, we found out she didn’t grieve the marriage, she was grieving the lost of her ‘dream’ from having a family. When she mentioned this to some of her friends, they looked at her saying, “Thats not normal! “

But it is ‘normal’ to grieve a dream which you invested hard work in, love and maybe children. When ‘Mother’ heard that, she wrote her grief down in a Journal to put words on what she felt. She had heard about Julia, therapy horse via her psychologist (and contacted me). ‘Mother’ couldn’t afford her own horse, and her daughter was madly in love with horses.

Thanks to sponsors can we give others a ‘stress relive emotional day’ together with the horses. The first thing ‘Mother’ said when she arrived, “I noticed I am breathing slower right now!” ‘Mother’ and her Daughter got Julias cleaning box and started to brush her. Small giggles could be heard from them while brushing her. They took a walk through the forrest in silence, only accepting the moment they had together. Nothing else could be done right then.

Twice a week, on their special days, are ‘Mother’ and ‘Daughter’ coming to the stable to have a couple of hours together with Julia. ‘Mother’ feels more relaxed and have accepted that her former dream she actually can re-change into a new dream.A new beginning for both her and her daughter.

I call it, mentally detoxing.

This happened a couple of months ago, and ‘Mother’ is slowly getting her emotions under ‘control and acceptance’. With different contacts were we able to get a horse for free for them–there are many ‘older’ horses out there that needs/wants a new home. And they are all for free.

They are not sick–many times are they former professional horses that goes into retirement. We call it– ‘Thank You for Your Service Retirement Stable’

That’s Amore!

The Power from Words

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Hurtful words can follow you the rest of your life. Inside your heart and mind. Science have shown that the brain reacts the same from a fist as from a spoken hurtful word.

“Do as I tell you or….” is threats that makes you constantly live in fear. And re-living the words over and over.

Record, if you can, that can become evidence (for yourself and for authorities). Journal, to be able to see/aware of the negative cycle. Be the voice for your child and animals. If you don’t know how, ask for help. Search…..don’t give up! That’s Amore!

No to Smacks

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I bought this T shirt when I visited the big “Prevent Child Abuse” conference in North Carolina 2002.

We know that frustration and fear can often grow into abusive behavior. Verbally and physically.

It gives me the chill when I hear people defending their actions smacking a child (or women) It gives me the chill when I see riders using unnecessary whips smacking (and that makes them many times pull one rein, horse bit yank). “Use your legs!” I want to shout.

But then I can in many cases recognize the person I know the persons family history, where yelling and hitting are common. “You do what you know!said the psychologist. What you are being taught! she continued saying — Not an excuse, however an understanding to why. Hopefully we can catch that and help the person finding other solutions.

Same goes with protection of children.

I don’t think anyone wants to be Angry and frustrated. Inner peace and harmony, are the awareness tools to stop abusing those who are not being heard. (Or seen)

That’s Amore!

A Daily Doze of Vitamin H

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During this time with Coronavirus— “keep distance”, has it been no possibility for our two legged clients to visit our horses. But, they have all said the same thing.

They noticed their inner stress level gone up, their thoughts are flying everywhere. They cannot wait until they are allowed to meet the horses again. Their pulse slows down, and it’s like the thoughts suddenly disappears. One woman ones said after 5 minutes together with the horse, “ I feel like I can breathe now!”

Here in Germany in the beautiful Nature area, have we seen a lot of people walking, (hiking)

However, families that bike rides together has been amazing to see. It’s lovely to see so many families (separately) together out in the nature. They stop and looks at the horses. I can see the parents are pointing and talking while the kids listens. Quiet and relaxing!

The families worry of course, but like one woman said, “We try to learn from the horses to stay grounded and in the moment!”

That’s Amore!

Gaining Control

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“Once upon a time, a woman moved to a cave in the mountains to study with a guru. She wanted, she said, to learn everything there was to know.

The guru supplied her with stacks of books and left her alone so she could study. Every morning, the guru returned to the cave to monitor the woman’s progress. In his hand, he carried a heavy wooden cane.

Each morning, he asked her the same question: “Have you learned everything there is to know yet?” Each morning, her answer was the same. “No,” she said, “I haven’t.”

The guru would then strike her over the head with his cane. This scenario repeated itself for months. One day the guru entered the cave, asked the same question, heard the same answer, and raised his cane to hit her in the same way, but the woman grabbed the cane from the guru, stopping his assault in midair.

Relieved to end the daily batterings but fearing reprisal, the woman looked up at the guru. To her surprise, the guru smiled. “Congratulations,” he said, “you have graduated. You now know everything you need to know.” “How’s that?” the woman asked. “You have learned that you will never learn everything there is to know,” he replied

“And you have learned how to stop the pain.”

#MelodyBeattie

Codependents Receiving Support from Horses

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💚 Codependents are many times having a difficult time finding the help and healing they need. Many times as a codependent, some people can give you the feeling that you chose the situation yourself. A non-drinking person, in a relationship with an alcoholic, is in just as much pain, and need just as much healing, as the alcoholic. etc.


Together with an experienced and passionate therapist you can find a road to healing. However, together with Animals it has shown another kind of successful healing recovery.
The horse/dog makes sure you are taking care of yourself— they give, and together with them, you dare to open up, and honest.


That’s Amore

Julia, the horse in the middle, is one of our most fantastic therapists.

You get used to it

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Read interview with Stephen King in NY times yesterday.

This little story caught my mind. People ask many times “How can you stay? How can you do that, or not do this?”

Sometimes you are not just aware.


It’s a bit like these two donkeys are walking along the bridge, and one of them doesn’t have anything on his back and the other one is covered with packages and bales and bundles.

The first donkey says, “Jesus, that’s quite a load you got on.”

And the second donkey says, “What load?”

You get used to it.

Counting Carrots and Goodies

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When inside the house the whole days and evenings— except running in the garden, walking dogs. More food is being consumed in our household.

And talk about goodies suddenly disappearing in a blink of an eye 🙂 Different hiding places are being found by them. Their noses are being perfect.

However, the amount of carrots and apples stays the same, but not the goodies 🙂

When questioning who ate all the ice cream, the kids always have the same innocent eyes, even the six dogs.

You got to Love them, two legged and four legged kids. Even when you see the small traces of chocolate on their t shirts.

That’s Amore!