Grieving is an important way to say goodbye to a loved one. Painful as it is, it’s a way to remember that you have felt love. Grieving is an important direction towards healing. It doesn’t mean to forget, it only means when time is right, you are ready to give the love you had, to someone else.
You are not replacing. You are starting to understand the meaning of unconditionally love.
When it was time to say goodbye to Gummibear, our beloved rescue horse, was it important to have my children present. Their schools understood when I wrote and explained.
The children and I picked wild flowers while talking about life and death. Not to fear, however, dare to feel, and let go.
There is no ending. Only a new beginning, somewhere else, where the grass is greener.
One morning I realized while sitting drinking my morning coffee, that if my daughter or son, would be harmed in any possible way, I would fight for them.
I would be laud and direct, fighting for them to be heard and believed. — as I already have done in some ways— I would fight for their voice to be heard and justice to be made. Write about it. A matter of course!
But why in the name of …..did I not make myself heard? Or even fight for myself, in a more determined way?
I was shocked when I realized that I was quiet, hiding scared in a dark hole. Refusing to come up and fight, to be laud, set boundaries and say, “Enough is Enough!”
For two decades now had I fought for the Animal Rights. I was well known for rescuing many animals. And maybe also for my three published books. I could get the cruelest person to hand over their abused animal to me. In that case was I strong, and determined.
But how come I didn’t stand up for the person that needed the help most? I asked myself again!
Maybe it’s Because there are groups of different kind of help. You can be “lucky” to come to the right person right away, or, your road starts taking a scary turn, with the wrong people behind their desks.
We trust them. Listens to their promises. We trust their occupation, of course they must know what they are talking about. Right!
There are good people helping, but they are overloaded with work.
It doesn’t get easier because you finally dare to leave. Then the revenge starts.
Silence can make the wrong people continuing with their harmfulness. I started writing about this theme 1996, still not bigger of a change. More Women Shelter are being built. Good and sad.
It’s time to stand up, reunite with the past, starting today.
A child’s shoulder were not built to bear the weight of their parents choices.
You cannot change what you don’t know, however, when you do know, you have a choice. It’s painful, maybe shameful, frightening, feeling alone and scared.
But you can do it! Get professional help, and do not be afraid of trying different ways. As long as your intuition, and feeling empowered grows, you will grow towards healing.
It will take time.
“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” — John C. Maxwell–
I become the people I surrond myself with, and I choose to be around people who motivate and push me to be a better version of myself every single day.
I am not saying good bye to all my old friends, however, I am welcoming new friends.
Its going to be a good 2020, I have decided.
I am back in school, studying Children’s Rights in Theory and Practise at Harvard on line.
Still rescuing Animals which will always be a big part of my life. Soon another interesting project is coming up. Structuring up my new life first.
Privat Photo; against prostitution and trafficking Stuttgart.
Mia Mattsson Mercer 