Mia Mattsson Mercer

Children and Animal Warrior

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Listening to the Teacher

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Healing from horses has a major effect on our brains (and hearts) It is not only our puls which slows down, but also our breathing becomes deeper.  Now, please don’t get confused over some riders that are yelling angry while sitting on their horse. Or getting irritated at another rider passing them to close, or a walking person with their dog lose.

Frustration over something else effects the horse which is already very sensitive with their intuition and instinct = surviving mechanism. Pulling in their mouth, whipping, or spurs slamming in their sides is an unpleasant surprise for the horse. (horse trying to look and feel where he puts his hooves, at the same, time listening on our unclear information from the saddle.)

Right now, I am writing/thinking about people which connects with their horse in a quiet way, ex. without Iphones in their hands– (I cannot watch people while sitting on their horse, checking their Smartphones. What in the world happened in 30 minutes since you last checked?)

Ok,

  • Horses are never rolling their eyes at you,
  • or sigh,  when you constantly repeat your problems,
  • or holding your lovely love speech for them.
  • You are a team, you are nothing without your horse.
  • They learn different peoples cues/training, that must mean they think and feel!

I believe that rescuing horses are an amazing project. You do not know what kind of character you are rescuing, and it’s my job to let the ‘character’ heal and come out by itself.

  • Work on mutual trust.

Olivia, my daughter, has been by my side, since toddler time, by following the horses directions. It has actually helped her grow as a rider (and caretaker).

  • Horses are the teachers.

You  buy a horse. Maybe after some months, problems are starting to show up. Many times it is up to  99%  your lack of ‘listening’ skills. (same in ana relationship)

Imagine, I would raise a child and later send it to a relative. This relative many times starts by ‘telling’ the child ‘his/hers’ rules and believes. (not in a mean way– you cannot change what you don’t acknowledge–)

Lentil, was a big handsome horse, and when I say big horse, I mean huge. When I saw him for the first time I noticed his loving heart, and not to forget his bright mind. Lentils former owner had raised him with straightforward guidance and love. Lentil was her shining star and it broke both their hearts when she had to sell him, even if it was to a very skilled rider. When non one saw them she kissed Lentil good bye, and told him he would go to a very good stable. The new owners were kindhearted.

Lentil trusted her.

Lentil was a young horse, and raised with plenty of time and playfulness. The owner didn’t want him to grow up to an ‘empty mind’ horse, like a machine. When she made him ready in the box, he would play gentle with his big teeth towards her. When she used her gentle but firm voice, telling him they had to stop playing, he listened.

  • She gave him time.

Lentil wanted and needed to work with his balance. He was scared of lifting his hoof when needed to be cleaned. Do you know how scary it is from my height! he said.

  • His breeder had worked with encouragement. He was a horse that needed a lot of ‘kind voice’ clarifications.

The small problems started when  his former owner never shared these ‘small’ indications– but had big impacts in the future for Lentil– She didn’t think they mattered that much.

The new owners, even how kind they were, had their own routines, and their knowledge, and didn’t always have the time to listen. Confusion started when Lentil got ‘punished’ when he did his ‘playing.’ which had made laughter before.

Actually, the problem is not when we have to many horses, and to many children. It is our outside environment around us that disturbs our connections. There is a bucket full of thoughts and needs, that can be impossible to sort out, if not given your absolute fullest time to each one off them.

  • Shut the outside out while working. Become one.
  • Meditate together

Lack of time listening = will create either a revolting horse/child, or a withdrawing horse/child.

Time, listening and meeting the characters = will absolutely become a winning team. Both with horses and children.

  • Both horses and children got true and honest emotional capacities.

When we start to listen instead of justifying ourselves, a new world of knowledge will opening up infront of us.

That’s Amore!

Children — Women — Animal– Rights

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All children, women, animals have the rights to be protected from violence inflicted on them by anyone in their lives – whether parents, teachers, friends, romantic partners, strangers or owners.

And all forms of violence experienced by children and animals, regardless of the nature or severity of the act, are harmful. Beyond the unnecessary hurt and pain it causes, violence undermines children’s sense of self-worth and hinders their development.

Same goes for Animals.

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The Inner Voice of Anxiety

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❤️ I heard her telling the horse to stop biting its feeding bowl. I could hear the young woman’s voice becoming more and more frustrated. The horse kept biting and inhaling air.

I could feel the horse anxiety level rising rapidly, and her inhaling becoming stronger.

The young woman wasn’t bad to the horse, quite the opposite. She didn’t want the horse to get colic (or feel bad)

I knew how much she loved the horse. “If you as a person are making something out of nervousness, and someone is telling you in a harsh way to stop, repeatedly, how would you feel?” I asked the young woman kindly.

“More nervous, I guess.” she answered politely.

She smiled and removed the horse, and tied her beloved horse away from the feeding bucket while saddling her.

The horse stoped biting at the feeding place and with encouraging voice she could get her horse ready without any more problems. Her horse stood calmly.

You want to empower your horse, and your children. To continue building them up from who they are, their background and for your future together.

That’s Amore!

Be in the Moment

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To be able to visit the stable every day, is an enormous gift.

To be in the moment. Not in the past, nor in the future, but in the moment.

The stillness, hearing the horses breathing quietly, like meditation for the mind, heart and soul.

To become one with everything

That’s Amore!

My Favorite Picture

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Picture credit; Kathrin Gralla

This picture warms my heart, my mommy heart.

For some reason did I collect all (actually missing one pair that our dog ate) of my daughters riding boots.

From when she was three years-old, riding in south Italy, until now, 13 years-old in Germany.

She had a “break” from riding when she broke her femur, in a horse accident. Ollie was only 9 back then, and it was the worst evening in my life.

I asked her a couple of months later, when she got off her wheel chair, if she couldn’t consider starting playing golf!

Well no way! She got back on the horse(s) and started jumping…however, and recently she started playing polo —one kind of hitting a ball.

I am a proud mother!

That’s Amore!

Never Close Your Heart

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I read somewhere that dogs rather go to humans that cry, than those that laughs.

Can it be that the emotions are strong and, indicates the need of help?

Or, is it that simple that dogs got pure empathy!

That’s Amore!

I didn’t leave to hurt you!

I left to heal me!

I read this somewhere many years ago. It was so true. I had to leave since we were destroying each other instead of being uplifting to each other. Blame game kept going!

Exhausted, and full of pain managing to stop being codependent.

Why are we trying to destroy each other, and everything that is so beautiful in our environment.

Animals doesn’t do that.

That’s Amore!

New picture to old text!

Picture Credit Kathrin Gralla!