Jealousy is one of the most damaging feelings we can allow us to happen.
As it actually hurts yourself, the same way it hurts the target.
Early on in my children’s life, I started to talk to them about jealousy. About “good” jealousy and “bad” jealousy. Either it could inspire them, or destroy them.
One advice I kept telling them — and it’s a good reminder to all of us– is to practice the (Buddhist) question that asks, “Can you be happy for their (the person you are jealous of) success?
When you are noticing your jealous feelings. Stop! Take a breath, and simply ask this question. Chose kindness.
Photo credit black and white picture, Kathrin Gralla