Mia Mattsson Mercer

Children and Animal Warrior

About ThatsAmore

Swedish writer to three published books, former column writer for a Swedish spiritual mindfulness Magazine Nära, CEO and Founder of Animals Without Limits since 1999, Animal psychologist, Animal Study Teacher, Lyme Disease fighter, Child and Animal Abuse Warrior that is working in many different countries.

Empower yourself with Strong Survivors

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One thing I learned through the long journey as a victim, was to find strong survivors for support and advice.

These incredible women (and one man ) understands first and foremost, all the different emotions which (many times ) are making it difficult for the mind to move forward.

They are also helping with my recovery and growth, to become whole again. They understand the time it takes. Small steps and big cheers!

What I love with these strong women I am surrounded by, there are never any talk about revenge. Only to get knowledge and love (support) and possibilities for myself. And of course laughters, between the tears.

Now …….

That’s Amore!

No to Silence

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Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target
of the abuse.

Emotional and financial harm are the common ways to destroy the target.

Every week I hear the same kind of stories from different women. My Mother, one Doctor, Psychologists, Stay Home Moms, one Army Captain, Nurse…. I can go on and on. One thing these women have in common:

They are beautiful smart women, but became targets by harmful men. Not, of course, in the beginning, that would have been to easy.

Groomers, with love bombing and learning how to mimic the women’s dreams. Playfully, like a cat is playing with the mouse. It’s a game.

“Because it’s fun” one man told me. Another man shrugged his shoulders, he just did it! Why? He couldn’t answer.

The silence will keep more and more women in the shame trap, if we don’t speak louder about it, openly.

Your voice is tremendous important!

That’s Amore!

There is “Time” for Everything

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Det är underbart att få se när ett djur släpper alla rädslor eller misstankar om fara.
De har sin ”tid” och vi ger dem all ”tid” de behöver. Vi tränar inte, vi låter dem vara. De visar vägen till fullkomlighet trygghet inom sig själva.
De är i total kontakt med sitt inre, intuitionen och insiktens hem.

Första gången Rihanna rullar sedan hon kom 2018

That’s Amore!

When an animal is letting go of all her fears, or suspiciousness, is amazing to watch.

They got their “time” and we give them “time”

We do not train. We are letting them show us their own directions of their path. Who they are, and what they want. Rihanna is in total contact with her inner self, in her home of intuition and instincts.

First time Rihanna rescuehorse is rolling! (It’s on video)

We can learn a lot from them.

That’s Amore!

Your Pain got a Story to Share

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Every week I meet people that truly want to express their pain, but don’t know where to begin. Pain can be overwhelming.

Many, and especially women also feel ashamed that they got fooled in a relationship. That they stayed to long in a toxic relationship. They trusted their partner, later being left with ignorance, hurt, economically broke and left with debts. They try to fight, but when the system also lets them down, the pain inside grows.

Not being seen!

When friends stops to talk to you, or helping. Maybe they say they feel guilty. Or nothing at all.

Your pain grows like a tumor and you lose hope.

Every week I meet a woman that has the same story as the woman before her, and before….

Few men, but there are men suffering with pain. Many time they don’t want to talk. It’s ok! The heart doesn’t have any knowledge about time, since time is an illusion.

Same goes for animals. No time.

When adults come to meet our therapy horse, Julia. I leave them alone together. I keep of course, a “mom” eye, and especially on Julia How she reacts in the moment, together with the person.

A horse never lies, and has never been wrong about a human.

Please try not to see your pain as something shameful. Grow in it, earn it, and talk. If it’s to a horse, psychologists or……someone you can trust.

That’s Amore!

Your pain gives you a unique insight into the minds of people who have experienced trauma and heartache.

I will Never be Quiet

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Maybe a pause here and there, to regain my strength again.

It’s not easy fighting the dark side, and sometimes I get hurt. But I get up, and start over again. And again!

I know how it is to be left alone without a voice protecting me. Instead of being bitter, I become the voice I wanted someone else to be.

That’s Amore!

I Lead my Heart with Courage

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When there is sun and blue sky, life feels lighter

When you are with a friend, life feels good.

When someone asks, how are your, not only with their words, but also with their eyes.

Feels amazing.

They stop their own life for a minute, and connects with you.

I see when you hurry up to avoid me, but I smile towards you. I know you feel guilty, and I don’t want you to have that burden, because of me.

I continue pretending everything is fine.

I am thankful, you know, that I finally can see clearly with my own eyes, even if it hurts.

But only in that moment, I let it hurt.

I don’t judge you. You see, I am learning not to judge myself. So I turn around, and walks towards the horses. We are one.

I feel accepted without any words.

That’s Amore!

It is Your Fault

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Right now, am I studying about High Conflict People. Persons which can make your life stressful, frustrating, and even extremely challenging. They bully, or belittle you, now matter age. Placing blames, or threatening, acting aggressive in appropriate ways. Spreading rumours, and love to sabotage. (I can go on)

As a child, you do not understand this kind of behaviour — and while growing up, you continue believing that this is a ‘normal’. Since your internal voice continues telling you so over and over again. “It’s your fault!’ “You made me do this to you!”

As time goes, one day you fall in love, being charmed, and it feels great.

You feel loved. You feel seen. You are madly in love. You talk about your future together.

Grooming has started, without your understanding, right that moment. But, it feels good!

Children that grew up with being belittled, bullied or abuse in any way, are easy targets for High Conflict Persons. Grooming with love and promises, sweet dreams.

After I while, the isolation starts. Slowly! It’s not noticeable, just like gas, creeping slowly invisible up on you.

Suddenly, the blames starts to come like hail storms. Sometimes with small glimpses of sunshine– to keep you confused. Maybe you only over react?

Yes, during my childhood, growing up, ‘they’ said it was my fault, ‘I was useless, I couldn’t do anything right. Of course, ‘It’s all your fault!”

It’s brainwashing.

It’s not about YOU! It’s all about them.

Start by writing a journal, date, underline, feel and write. Because at first we deny, we don’t want to believe what is happening. While writing, the truth will appear on the paper.

Is it your fault?

Try relaxing your thoughts. Try meditation, in different ways to find the one that suits you at the moment. Just try out.

Light a candle, breath. Tell your brain, over and over again, ‘you can do this!’

You are not alone!

That’s Amore!

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