Mia Mattsson Mercer

Children and Animal Warrior

About ThatsAmore

Swedish writer to three published books, former column writer for a Swedish spiritual mindfulness Magazine Nära, CEO and Founder of Animals Without Limits since 1999, Animal psychologist, Animal Study Teacher, Lyme Disease fighter, Child and Animal Abuse Warrior that is working in many different countries.

It is Your Fault

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Right now, am I studying about High Conflict People. Persons which can make your life stressful, frustrating, and even extremely challenging. They bully, or belittle you, now matter age. Placing blames, or threatening, acting aggressive in appropriate ways. Spreading rumours, and love to sabotage. (I can go on)

As a child, you do not understand this kind of behaviour — and while growing up, you continue believing that this is a ‘normal’. Since your internal voice continues telling you so over and over again. “It’s your fault!’ “You made me do this to you!”

As time goes, one day you fall in love, being charmed, and it feels great.

You feel loved. You feel seen. You are madly in love. You talk about your future together.

Grooming has started, without your understanding, right that moment. But, it feels good!

Children that grew up with being belittled, bullied or abuse in any way, are easy targets for High Conflict Persons. Grooming with love and promises, sweet dreams.

After I while, the isolation starts. Slowly! It’s not noticeable, just like gas, creeping slowly invisible up on you.

Suddenly, the blames starts to come like hail storms. Sometimes with small glimpses of sunshine– to keep you confused. Maybe you only over react?

Yes, during my childhood, growing up, ‘they’ said it was my fault, ‘I was useless, I couldn’t do anything right. Of course, ‘It’s all your fault!”

It’s brainwashing.

It’s not about YOU! It’s all about them.

Start by writing a journal, date, underline, feel and write. Because at first we deny, we don’t want to believe what is happening. While writing, the truth will appear on the paper.

Is it your fault?

Try relaxing your thoughts. Try meditation, in different ways to find the one that suits you at the moment. Just try out.

Light a candle, breath. Tell your brain, over and over again, ‘you can do this!’

You are not alone!

That’s Amore!

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Lazy Sunday

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Don’t eat it all, please!!!

Weekend Treats

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I wasn’t sure I would like the book which was recommended by the book club I just joined.

But I absolutely loved it. Beautiful written!

And finally, the movie I wanted to see for a long time. I loved it. I noticed several times smiling through the movie. Absolutely fantastic actors.

Cold outside, warm fireplace and fury friends next to you on the couch.

That’s Amore!

The Weight on a Child’s Shoulder

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A child’s shoulder were not built to bear the weight of their parents choices.

You cannot change what you don’t know, however, when you do know, you have a choice. It’s painful, maybe shameful, frightening, feeling alone and scared.

But you can do it! Get professional help, and do not be afraid of trying different ways. As long as your intuition, and feeling empowered grows, you will grow towards healing.

It will take time.

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” — John C. Maxwell–

That’s Amore!

Empower Celebrations

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💚 Marriage, engagement, pregnancy, a new child, are all amazing things to celebrate, but they are not the only things. Don’t forget to celebrate your friend who ran a marathon, who left a toxic relationship, who went back to school, rescued/adopted animal(s), who is taking steps to heal from trauma (I can go on and on 😅)

That’s Amore!

Celebrate and empower each other!

@souls-connecting borrowed most of the text

Learn from Children’s Honesty

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Children are amazing, by telling their truth right away. It’s simple.

Short and upfront!

How much more easy wouldn’t life be, if we could see with their eyes, and speak like their hearts.

Pure and simple!

Never belittle anyone, and especially not children.

Uplift them.

That’s Amore!

Human and Horse Therapists Together

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I am very excited to see our “quiet” project, back in 2018 named as Giving Back, is becoming known by various psychologist, and different therapists in our area.  And our project is growing!

I am truly thankful, and enthusiastic for their open minds, and becoming more aware that animals, are having a huge impact on us humans healing.

Me and AWL (supporters) are rescuing horses with different kind of mental illness. Some of the horses are having ‘deeper’ depressions than the others.

Me and my daughter, work quietly together with the rescue horses, figuring out with their guidance, how they wants to heal.

Each one of them, shows us which directions they want to go. Since they don’t have the same story, or experiences to tell us, we need to listen extra carefully.

All five horses doesn’t receive the same therapy from us!

Same goes for us humans.

Mental illness doesn’t take a break, and neither can we.

That’s Amore!